According to the most celebrated fashion designer in history, Gabrielle (‘Coco’) Chanel, a woman should be two things: classy and fabulous.

Over the years I’ve devoted so much energy to work, that I’ve over done it in the masculine energy front (something I am not proud of). I thought hard work was the only way to gain ‘gender equality’ (what a loaded phrase) and the only way to achieve my dreams.

woman behind a treeWhat seems to have slipped out of my mind is the reality of nature; men and women  are designed for different purposes.

Not only, our chromosomes differ (men are the product of an X and a Y chromosome, women on the other hand, are a product of two X chromosomes) but studies also show that our brains are different.

I do not see men protesting because they cannot get pregnant or why they do not go through unbearable pains due to their monthly cycle. What does the word equal really mean? Does nature allow us to ever be truly equal?

We live in a culture where a woman constantly doubts her own role, her own pleasures. A culture that victimises women, it is teaching us how to give without enjoying life (at least that’s the lesson I have taught myself).

The reason why I wrote about ‘Chanel’ is because her life story is remarkable. She spent much of her childhood in an orphanage, her mother died when she was just 12 years old and her father abandoned her.

I assume that the suffering during her childhood led to her working hard and achieving her ‘dreams’. She took concepts from sportswear and men’s clothing, and turned them into practical clothes for women. Her employers described her as being tough, demanding and ruthless.

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